If you're a single man struggling in the world of dating maybe you need an image update. Fashion Stylist Kami Gray stopped by with fashion-forward dating tips for men.
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"Don't Be THAT Guy: Online Dating Tips for Men"
According to statistics, there are 54 million single adults in the US and 40 million have tried online dating or some form of flirting online.
The point is single people find dates online now. We increasingly use digital tools in all phases of our life, so finding a mate online was only a matter of time.
And the stigma of finding a mate online has long worn off. Many of us, myself included, have been to weddings where the happy couple met online.
What prompted me to explore the world of online dating is that many of my male personal styling clients were hiring me to help them look better in order to attract a woman, either online or out in world.
For those that admitted to me that they were looking for a mate online, I helped them create a new more appealing look that women would find attractive and would help them stand out.
What I found in my online dating research is it's really easy to stand out. Most men are completely clueless. So today we're going to help the menfolk increase their odds of not making the mistakes that most men make on their online dating profile.
No. 1: The number of photos
Match.com lets you put a whopping 26 pictures in your profile. The key here is that just because they allow for that many doesn't mean you need to use all the space. This is online dating, not a Facebook album, so three to six pictures is plenty. Remember you're only as attractive as your worst picture. Women will look for the one bad one and decide not to email you because of it. Speaking of bad photos, let's get to our first what not put on your online dating profile.
So you want to show you're a casual guy with great abs. Great! Don't go shirtless. We want to imagine ourselves on a date with you. And don't take photos of yourself in your bathroom. For one thing, we're wondering, who took that photo? Choose a generic setting, the outdoors or a restaurant, and wear something slim fitting so we can see your body. And even though you're a t-shirt and jeans guy, step it up a notch for us. We like that.
MODEL: Our first model Kevin is a young guy and he likes to be casual and is most comfortable in sneakers. Totally fine. But for her, let's skip the t-shirt proudly displaying your favorite sports team or band and show her the respect she deserves with a collared shirt. We like collars. We think you care about yourself and chances are pretty good that you have a job.
No. 2: Your "interesting" Photo
The last picture you post should be your "interesting" picture. Now that we think you're good-looking, we need something to help us start a conversation. Posting a picture of you being a volunteer firefighter, posing with your dog, or showing a little creativity in your wardrobe these are what make you different and give us something to ask about if we email you. But showing a photo of you looking moody and sensitive, like you're home playing simon and garfunkel records looks kind of depressing to us.
MODEL: Our model Michael is showing his creative side and showing a little personality with his leather jacket, plaid hat, and doc martins. This works. It shows your comfortable and confident and we women really like that. And don't forget to smile in your photos. Just like men, women like to be around happy people.
No. 3: Set Yourself Apart
Nobody get's dressed up anymore. CEOs of Fortune 500 companies rarely wear a tie. What happened to the tie?
We women really want to see what you're going to look like on our special date night or maybe what you wear when you go to work.
MODEL: Our model Troy is showing us how to step it up. He doesn't need a sportcoat although he could easily add one to this look. A shirt and tie is so handsome and sharp and because so many men are going untucked and tie-less online, put on a shirt and tie, tuck that shirt in, shine your shoes and stand out from the pack.