Resolutions for Better Behavior

      If you haven't had time to think about your New Year's resolutions just yet, Etiquette Expert Melanie Perko stopped by to help. She shared her ideas on what she'd like to see all of us resolve to do in the new year.

      Always be on time

      • Other than the occasional time everyone runs late, it is best not to ALWAYS run late. Chronic lateness wastes the time of others and screams you are unorganized. Many think it is a subtle cry for attention, too.

      Always RSVP

      • It is so easy to RSVP today with texting and email. There is no excuse not to do so. Anyone who has ever planned an event will know the importance of the RSVP. Your RSVP means acknowledging the invitation (invites via mail, evite, email, text or verbal), and letting the host know you received the invitation and whether or not you are planning to attend the event. If someone takes the time to invite you to an event, you need to take the time to RSVP.

      Confirm Appointments before going

      • With many appointments made today via email and texting (not voice to voice), it is important to confirm the appointment the day prior. Review the date, time and place. It is surprising how many times when this is done, each party is working with differing information.
      • This includes, business, personal and social appointments.

      Drop Gossip

      • Gossip is habitual talk of the personal and sensational facts of others. Ask yourself before you talk "do I have permission to say this?" Or, "would I be embarrassed if this person (about whom I am going to gossip) asked me if I said this?" Or, "would I say this if the person (about whom I am going to gossip) was in my presence?" And, don't be drawn into gossip by others. Simply say "I won't comment," or completely change the direction of the conversation.

      Develop your own 30 Commercial

      • We now have web sites about companies, people need their own 30 second commercial of what they do and what they say to people. This is often called the "elevator speech" the time it takes to take an elevator up 10 floors. An example of an elevator speech might be, after I am asked "Tell me about yourself": "My name is Melanie Perko and I teach etiquette to boost self -esteem, grow your business and make you money in the marketplace. My business name is RSVP Melanie and I teach children, teen, and corporate students. It is nice to meet you and thank you for asking. And you?"

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