Daily habits can sabotage happiness. Our Confidence Coach Laure Redmond joined us to share a few of these happiness zappers:
- Thinking "Happiness" Is A Natural State How often do you feel like you are defective if you’re not happy? Happiness is an ability, it is a developed skill; once you take away the pressure of thinking you “should” be happy, you can create practices to invite more happiness into your life.
- Gossip Poking fun at other people, especially behind their backs, even if it’s commenting about a friends hair color to another, is pure toxic waste. It is always your personal fears, insecurities, and misgivings that direct gossip.
- Believing You Have To Get Rid of Negative Thinking This would be impossible, since challenging thoughts and feelings are inevitable. At times, you might feel connected and loved; at other points, you might feel scared, unhappy, or frustrated. This does not mean you have failed, it means you are experiencing a hard moment. Not a permanent state of being, but a hard moment.
- "Faking It" When You Are in Pain When avoiding painful memories and images, they don’t go away, they just get buried deeper in the body. Avoidance and distraction are only a temporary fix, facing the feelings, making space for the suffering, talking about what is going on for you - allows the feelings to be worked out, which opens more room for positive, meaningful experiences.
- "Trying" We get 1440 minutes a day to do the things that are most important. If you say you are “trying” to prioritize exercise, eating healthier, or time with your grandkids - stop making excuses why you are not actually spending your time this way. To “try” is not to commit.
- Staying Indoors Being inside keeps the light from hitting your face. The sun warms the soul, and the crisp air is a vitamin for your lungs. Inside is boring - outside is fun. As Ralph Waldo Emerson said: “Live in the sunshine, swim the sea, drink the wild air.”
- Too Much "Yes" Do not stretch your physical, mental, at work, at home, relationship limits.
- Frivolous Shopping It is easy to be lured in by marketing and packaging. Decide what you need over what you want, happiness cannot be sustained through stuff.
You can listen to Laure on "Feel Good Naked Radio." For more helpful information, visit Laure's website. She's also available for private coaching for individuals or groups.