Every day we are confronted with multiple choices that either make us feel confident, strong, and worthy, or fearful, repressed and small. When you lack courage, there are huge obstacles that will prevent you from having the finances, family, body, friendships — everything that you deserve. Confidence Coach Laure Redmond joined us to talk about how to develop your courage muscles in order to have the life you truly want:
- Ask Yourself What Nelson Mandela Would Do A beautiful person who was sentenced to life in prison for fighting to end segregation in South Africa was unscathed by bitterness! My two favorite Nelson Mandela lessons: Do not, under any circumstances, allow your heart to turn cold; Courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it.
- Create Spiritual Connection Spirituality, whatever that means to each person, is the best way not to fear the unknown. Spirituality develops a deeper inner TRUST that will allow the unknown to be kinder to you. Even the fear of death is not as scary as the fear of not having lived a full life.
- Be Vulnerable and Willing to Fail There is no better measure of courage then the willingness to show up and be authentically seen. This is the bravest act - and even if you fail or are rejected, you will feel like a warrior for having tried and for not running away. Don’t turn your mistakes into your identity. Have faith in your own resilience.
- You Will Disappoint People People have agenda’s - expectations - co-dependent needs - you will disappoint these people and perhaps lose relationships because of these disappointments. But the people who are really part of your tribe, who honestly want you to rise - they will get over their own disappointment out of respect for who you are. Know the difference between support and co-dependency and stop being a people pleaser.
- Become Embodied Take back your power - don’t let your mind take over - let your body lead the way. Over-analyzing anything will create fear, unhappiness and a feeling of being stuck.
- Word Change Instead of saying, “I can’t do it”, say, “I must do it!”. After you practice this a few times, it gets much easier ...
- Feel Your Pain If you hide from the painful parts, they don’t go away, they just become more painful.
You can listen to Laure on "Feel Good Naked Radio." For more helpful information, visit Laure's website. She's also available for private coaching for individuals or groups.