Manners Always Matter


Good manners are as important as good grooming and respectful behavior. Unfortunately, in this day of confused standards, manners are sometimes, if not often, neglected. Confidence Coach Laure Redmond joined us to share some important ways manners matter:

  1. One Never Knows Who the Server at the Cafe Might Become: A future neighbor, or romantic partner, or work colleague, or friend; which is one good reason not to be rude while ordering your next iced mocha or checking out your groceries. Another good reason is that our world has never been more intolerant - good manners create a kinder atmosphere.
  2. "Cuddle Hormone" Releases Kindness: When someone is nice towards another person, the recipient's brain releases oxytocin, which causes them to respond with kindness - creating a positive chain of civility, which creates possibilities.
  3. Don't Let Someone Else's Stress Be a Trigger: If someone is rude to you, you don't have to mirror their behavior. A rude person brings disgrace on him or herself. Try giving them a high-stress benefit of the doubt pass, while letting their unpleasantness wash over you. By the way, high stress inhibits oxytocin release and the reciprocation of nice with nice.
  4. Good Manners Improve Your Life: Your reputation will get a boost because people will view you as mature and responsible. Your social life will improve because people are drawn to those who treat them well.
  5. Take Inventory: Ask yourself--Do I address all people respectfully? How often do I say "please," "thank you," or "excuse me"?
  6. Distraction is Plain Rude: When talking with others, it is important to fully focus on listening - this is NOT the time to read or respond to text messages. In fact, turning off all electronics is best.
  7. Ask Permission: Before taking photo's of someone else or their food - and - for sure - ask before posting. Also, be aware that when posting "live", you are creating potentially hurt feelings in others who are not in the photo.
  8. Ghosting is Never Okay: Ghosting refers to ending a romantic relationship by cutting off all contact and ignoring the former partner's attempts to reach out.

For more helpful information, visit Laure's website. She's also available for private coaching for individuals or groups.